“Complacency is the killer of our natural can do/ will do spirit. And it sets in before we know it”
When do we stop striving to be better?
At what age do we “get comfortable” and just decide that we’re ok where we are, with what we are doing, with how much money we are making or not making, with how often we give gratitude to whomever we believe in, with showing just enough love and support to our spouse, children, parents, and friends, to get by?
I love routine. I live and breathe and function by planning, scheduling, and following my daily routine. And while routines are great for most tasks in our life; they can cause us to become brain dead, robotic. We start to live and act and work in a bubble. We get comfortable with our friends, our job, our finances, and we sit and stay. And some of us never move beyond or strive higher or outside of our bubble because it took hard work to get there, and why would you ever want to leave it after all of that?
“Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking” –Romans 12:1-2.
My goal of this blog is not to say I have everything figured out, but to serve as more of a reminder to myself to never settle, to realize that in my comfort zone I become weak and numb and to share where I struggle with complacency in the hopes that it helps you relate and encourages you to discover that it’s really not ok to be stagnant. We were called to be different, distinct, and excellent at everything we do and that’s not something we hear everyday, like we should.
SELF DEVELOPMENT – Physical and Spiritual
In the past several months I had become complacent with my body. I had accepted the fact that Rick loves me no matter how I look, what size I wear, or what I weighed. I’d step on the scale, see a discouraging number and tell myself that it was ok, because I have muscles and “muscle weighs more than fat”. However, I knew that in the back of my mind, I could be a better me, I wasn’t satisfied with where I was, and we all know that “If momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.” I knew that I needed to seek outside help, step out of my comfort zone, in fact abandon my comfort zone, and do something different.
“If we want a better result, we cannot stay as we are, and the only way we change is by forcing ourselves out of our comfort zone by starting to do some uncomfortable things until they become a little more comfortable” – Ron Reynolds.
It’s amazing the things you can accomplish once you finally decide that you can, in fact, accomplish them. I am saving my physical breakthroughs for another post. Stay tuned.
In May, Rick and I attended an AdovCare leadership training in Lake Tahoe that forever changed my spiritual life. Without going into too much detail, I had been dealing with some issues that had led me to a place of uber complacency in my prayer and faith life. My prayers became routine, my reading fell behind, I was in a lull. I can’t really explain what/how a switch flipped on that weekend, but it did. Since then, I have made a conscious effort to read, pray, believe, and be faithful, and wouldn’t you know “all things are working together for the good”.
Fortunately, I haven’t felt complacent in my career, but I do know this is an area where most people become the MOST comfortable. I mean, these days if you have a job and you’re earning a paycheck you should consider yourself lucky, right? Sure…but not if you go to work miserable, wishing you were doing something else, but continuing to do the same thing day in and day out because you are too scared to take a risk to find something that would be more fulfilling, something that would actually make you happy… something you were meant to do, not settled to do.
Or….perhaps you really do enjoy where you work and what you do, and your employer encourages you just enough to make you feel special, but not enough to encourage you to go out and grow on your own. And thus, you become complacent because you’re doing what you love and the people you work with enjoy you; but at the end of the day no one is encouraging you to be YOU, to be different, to be excellent.
I could go into finances, marriage, relationships, etc…but I think you all have the point by now. I’ll leave you with these definitions and you can decide if complacency is “killing you softly” or if you’re comfortable with being comfortable.
1. self-satisfaction especially when accompanied by awareness of actual dangers or deficiencies.
2. a civil act
Definition of civil act:
1. of citizens in their ordinary capacity, or of the ordinary life and affairs of citizens.
I don’t know about you, but if I live a life of ordinary affairs, then it will be a life not lived.