You may be suffering from Goldilock’s Syndrome if you’ve ever said the following:

“I’ll take her arms, that other girl’s legs, her stomach, and my face”
“I like my arms, but I’d love to have her legs”
“If I could put my legs with her stomach and tone up my arms; I’d be just right”
Any of those phrases sound familiar to you? I know I’ve caught myself saying something similar multiple times.  

Why is it that you DO workout, what are the motives behind eating clean or sticking to this diet or that diet plan?  Is it because you hate your body and are chasing that “perfect” figure of your imagination? 

When my fitness journey began over 15 years ago (and I don’t say health and fitness because many of those years I was not healthy; I was undernourished) my sole motivation for working out countless hours and counting every calorie was because I hated my body, I loathed parts about it, I suffered from extreme Golidlock’s syndrome but I’ve blogged about this many times so I’ll save you the recap once more.

In much recent years, I’ve transitioned from being motivated 100% by negativity towards myself to almost (it’s always a work in progress) 100% being motivated by how my body feels when I workout and choose to eat clean.  I no longer feel compelled to eat a certain way or workout to a certain extreme; I JUST DO.  I do what I need to do and I do what feels right; not because I hate my body, but because in order for me to love it, I need to treat it right.  It’s not a question of whether or not I’m going to order this or that. I don’t have to be allergic to gluten to know I don’t want to eat it all the time, and if I don’t prefer to have a glass of wine with dinner, I don’t. 

So What Is This Goldilock’s Syndrome Anyway?
It’s a term that just came to me one day after receiving much appreciated support from friends, clients, and families during my competition season.  Here’s some of the following things I heard.

“You look so great. I don’t think I could ever look like you but I need help. Can you give me some tips?”
“Wow, you look really good; I want to get in shape too, but I don’t want to look like you”

First, the words “I don’t think I could ever look like you” is already self-defeating. Without you being aware of it, you’ve already set barriers and limits on yourself and your success.

Second, the “…..but I don’t want to look like you...” is a phrase I’ve heard more than 10 times the past few weeks.  And my reply to that is:

              GOOD! I don’t want YOU to look like ME either! 

I want YOU to look like YOU when your body feels the best, when it performs well, when you move and breathe with confidence, strength, empowerment, and excitement.  Chances are if you ended up getting that coveted figure of your imagination and you still don’t feel confident, strong, empowered, or excited about life, you won’t stay at that body/shape/weight for long.  

Throughout my past two figure competitions I believe I have found the best version of myself; inside and out.  Which also means I’m becoming less and less willing to compromise the happiness of where my body is NOW to do what it may take to be competitive in the sport.  If I’m to build “bigger glutes, or bigger shoulders, or develop my lat spread” I’ll be changing my appearance based on what other people are looking for; not myself.  

And therein lies the “Goldilock’s Syndrome” all over again.

My intentions of sharing all of this with you is to encourage you to discover the motivations behind why you choose to workout or not; why you choose to eat clean or not; what will it take to feel your best without wondering if you will ever look your best?  Align your thoughts with your actions and your actions with your thoughts.  Become your best YOU. You’re not me; you’re not your mother’s/father’s body, your not the brother or the sister that got the “bad genes”.  You are who you choose to be and who you choose to create.  And if you don’t know what it feels like to feel your best; I will do my best to help you discover that.