Have you ever noticed that people are always trying to rush you into what they expect or think you should be doing in life?
I mean, you haven’t even entered into your sophomore year in high school when questions of Where are you going to college? You’re going to college, right? What are you majoring in? arise.
And just as soon as you enter college people already want to know where you are going to work and live once you graduate. Heaven forbid you take a job that has nothing to do with your actual major, or take a year off to travel the world before entering the workforce. One of my best friends graduated with a Mass Communications degree, ended up becoming a personal trainer and CrossFit coach instead, and to anyone who believed in having the “traditional/standard” job one is expected to have after graduation, thought she was absolutely crazy to “not be using her college degree.”
I have another friend who is well out of college, is likely expected to have a “full time, salary-paying job” but is working pretty part time and spending the rest of her day(s) training to be the best she can be in her sport of CrossFit. Imagine the responses she gets from people who can’t understand her dreams because they’ve forgotten what it’s like to actually do and work at the things you enjoy.
Or have you been dating someone longer than a year and have gotten these questions multiple times? “When are you getting engaged? Are yall going to get married?”
Rick and I dated for about 2 years before we got engaged and in that time we both went through some challenges in both our lives and in our relationship. Challenges that were necessary for us to see how we would react, respond, and how we would deal with them together. If we had rushed into getting engaged or married these situations may have turned out completely different; our experiences and lessons learned would have not been the same. There’s significance and importance in discovering who you are and what you are made of as two separate people before you come together as one. Don’t rush the process just to do “what’s expected of you”.
And the question I’ve gotten 546,221 times since Rick and I have been married is “when are you going to have children and/or are you ever going to have children?” I will admit, people did stop asking after about 4 years but until then it was a question that not only was asked of us, but of my parents as well. We’ve spent the past 5 years growing together by ourselves, and our time for a good part of 3 years was occupied with opening our Anytime Fitness in Fredericksburg and taking over another in Dripping Springs. There were some points in time we were like two ships passing in the night: working, training, coaching, eating, sleeping – to bring a child into that kind of world (just to please other people’s wishes) would have been irresponsible. It’s why we’ve never owned a pet; the poor thing would have been neglected. Though in the past two years, we have both been able to scale things back, prioritize our time, and began talking about having and starting a family.
**For those of you who may not already know; Rick and I are expecting a little bundle of joy this October, and have no fear I already have several posts lined up that I’ve been waiting to write and share.
And to wrap up my whole point of this post, even though people have been expecting this to happen for quite some time I can honestly say I’m grateful it’s just now coming to fruition. In the past two years I have grown so much spiritually, mentally and emotionally. I feel like I can be the best version of myself for my child more so now than I ever have before. The work that I have done to improve my relationship with the Lord, with my body and with my overall mental state over the past few years has primed me to accept and enjoy all the changes and challenges that motherhood will bring. I can’t imagine still being preoccupied with body image issues and being pregnant at the same time. I want to be a mother that loves being pregnant; who sees only the positive in a belly that expands weekly and the changes that occur. Creating a life is a beautiful thing; and I am grateful I am in a place to fully appreciate all that it has to offer.
“Don’t be afraid to go your own way or do the opposite of what’s expected of you sometimes. Don’t let the pressures of others dictate your dreams or goals. No one knows you better than you know yourself.